Bespectacled!!!!

Hey Mommies,

My sweet little one is bespectacled.. He is barely 5 and he needs to wear spectacles now daily.. Yes its true… It broke my heart when the ophthalmologist said he has a certain amount of cylindrical power and he needs to wear glasses regularly. I was hoping that the doctors at the eye camp conducted at his school could have mistaken and send me a wrong report.. After all there were 300 odd students that day. But this ophthalmologist simply shattered my hope. My dear lil one had to bear those glasses on his face all through his life. ( unless some miracle happens or he chooses to get LASIK done).. But all that would happen after 15 more years. And till then I will have to get used to seeing him in his glasses. Just can’t bear the thought of it. God please give me the strength to handle it. I can’t act like this in front of him. I m supposed to tell him that everything is OK. Its normal to wear glasses. But how am I going to do that while he looks at me all surprised and asks,” But Amma, aren’t all those dots on the screen.. Doc says those are letters” or ” why should I wear glasses,superheroes don’t wear specs”… Its not going to be an easy task for sure.

I couldn’t help but blame myself for having gotten my lil one into this mess. I should have never let him watch TV or mobile at all. Should have given him more playtime in the sunlight.. Even while the doctor assured me that it’s purely genetic and Tv or mobiles are the last reason for a child of this age to develop sight related issues. Its gonna take time for me to accept all these.

Till then I ll try to act brave at least in front of my son… Hope he gets used to it faster than me.

 

 

 

 

Fun activity with kids

Hey Mommies!

Diwali vacations are round the corner, which means your little ones would be home ALL DAY…

Though I enjoy these vacations as I have hassle free mornings, but keeping my dear little super active son occupied whole day is quite a challenge. He usually ends up getting bored by afternoon and wants me to play with him😥. So I plan my work accordingly and spend some time doing fun activites – Activities which involve cutting, pasting, colouring are what both my son and I enjoy doing.

1. Make your own super hero

Items needed – an old bottle or his old baby powder bottle, a ball ( I used the ball which we get with Cadbury gems), a small cloth or scarf.

Stick the scarf or cloth on the neck of the bottle. Fix the ball on top of the bottle using glue/ sticky tapes. Draw a face on the ball.

Your superhero is ready and your little one will have fun playing with it😁

2. A space rocket

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You can see what the rocket looks like in the pic. This was from a do it yourself book which my husband liked. So this was done by the father and son and they both had loads of fun doing it.

Items needed – an old water bottle ( kinley/ maaza), colourful papers( they used old gift wrappers),cardboard, disposable glasses.

Stick the disposable glasses at the base of the bottle. Wrap the bottle and glasses stuck together using color paper. Cut the cardboard into small triangles, color it ,stick them to the sides of the bottle. Cut some parts of the cardboard into squares, color them and stick them on the bottle. Your little astronaut would love his rocket!!!

See, it’s so much for both mommy and the kiddo. Both the activities that I mentioned take less than 15 mins to complete as our kids lose interest if it takes more time. You can do the cutting yourself and allow your little one to color and paste so that he feels great about creating something!

Take care mommies and have fun filled holidays with your kids. In my next post, I shall share some activities which kids can do it on their own.

Cheers!!!!

No rights and wrongs!!!!

Read an article somewhere recently which points out that instant noodles contain high levels of sodium and etc…etc…and we need to stop giving our kids ‘such’ food as it is an unhealthy snack option. Had I read something like that an year ago, I would have panicked, read all the ingredients on the packet, tried to ban it completely at home and all that. But slowly I have started believing in myself. Believing that I wouldn’t do anything that would harm my child.  Like in this case, I make it a point to give my son instant noodles as breakfast only once in a week and I also add some fresh vegetables or corn in it to make it healthier. Then why worry???!!! This holds true in many cases like allowing soft drinks, allowing TV viewing, games on mobiles, tablets, bed time and a lot of other things that mothers discuss with each other.

Some (in fact most) of them feel the methods they use to discipline their kids is the best method. And there are also a lot of parenting sites with ‘experts’ trying to tell you the best ways to raise your child. To top it all, you also have the older generation wanting to share their parenting tips with you. ‘My child never behaved like that’ or ‘we just had to give a glance and our kids stopped right there’. All I want to say to all those people is ‘It suits you’!!!! Everything a mother does for her child is always in the best interest of the child. The methods she uses are definitely the ones that suit her and her child the best. Based on the mood  of her child she breaks or mends her rules or sets her foot down on some issues. 

So for me there is actually no right or wrong way of parenting. It solely depends upon us on how we raise our child. This is also the reason why I wanted to write this blog. It is to show all the mothers that once u believe in yourself you need not worry about the comments others make. 

Cheers mommies….Enjoy the process of parenting than worry about its rights and wrongs!!!!

Protective or over protective!!!

Dear Mommies,

I am in a strange mix of emotions today. Don’t know if I should be happy or worried that my son ( I doubt if I should still call him my little one) is growing up. And that too very fast. 

My son goes to his school in a school van with a bunch of his L.K.G buddies when one day a boy bit my son on his face. It formed a deep bruise on his forehead that took almost a fortnight to heal. All those days I was worried if I should get  a Tetanus done , I shouldn’t have let him travel by a van to school, should drop him myself . I also asked the driver what was he doing when a kid was hurting my child and also complained to that boy’s father.

I also taught my son how to defend himself. (Yell, push, complain to an elder). 

Now, after all these days, I saw some boot marks on his legs and on enquiring, it was that same kid and he kicked him this time. Outraged, I asked him why didn’t he tell me before. He plainly said “Amma, he is my ‘Friend’. He doesn’t hit me daily, only at times”. I tried explaining it to him that a friend never hits but in vain. He asked me not to complain to his parents and that he actually likes that kid.

 

Unbelievable, he prefers to protect that kid who hurts him. And he chooses to hide it from me. I don’t know if I should be happy that he is trying to handle it himself. Or worried that he is not willing to share his little problems with me.

Had I handled the incident subtly the first time, maybe my son would have trusted and shared his woes with me!!! 

Absolutely clueless!!! Hope I didn’t overdo it… I dont want to be over protective but I do want him to be safe…

 

 

Mother’s guilt

Hey Mommies,

http://m.economictimes.com/news/international/business/why-pepsico-ceo-indra-nooyi-cant-have-it-all/articleshow/37658755.cms

Recently read this article on Indra Nooyi where she expressed the most common feeling every mother has- the feeling of guilt!!!!  I don’t think anyone (any mom )is an exception to it. Whether working or stay at home, guilt in some form or the other continues to plague our minds. I have been staying at home and looking after my li’l one right from the day he entered this world. Most of the time just being there when he plays with his set of blocks or giving him a glass or spoon which his tiny hands are unable to reach or other such simple tasks are the activities which I keep doing for a major part of the day. I, at times, feel guilty for not doing anything productive when compared to working mothers who utilise their time very well to bond with their child as well as take care of the house. I have also observed that children with both working parents and those who spend their day in a day care are more independent than kids who have mothers or grandparents at home all day. So when my little one asks me to take off his shoes or asks me to search for his toy, I feel guilty for making him dependent on me for such minor things too. I try hard, really hard to get him do his own work, but most of the times he revolts saying he wants me to do it and after a few more attempts I give in too 😦

A few days ago, when I met a friend of mine ( she is working and has a son about the same age as my li’l one), I was very surprised to hear that she also feels guilty but for  different reason. Guilty of not being able to spend enough time with her son, guilty of not being there when he wants mom by his side. Guilty that her son doesn’t really want her and he is okay with anyone helping him or feeding him or picking him up from his school.

This was like completely different from the scenario at my place. It was then I realised maybe mothers are never satisfied with the efforts they put in 24*7!!!! They just want to do something more , a little extra for their little ones and in this struggle constantly end up feeling guilty for having left something behind. 

I will try and overcome this feeling as every child would learn everything he needs to learn to survive sooner or later. We as mothers need to just wait and watch.

Cheers!!!

Breastfeeding a 2.5 yr old!!!!

Hey Mommies,

 

When I say breastfeeding a 2.5 yr old, most of you must be wondering – what the hell is wrong with her!!! 

But trust me, I did it!!!! Not willingly of course…. This has been the most difficult part of my motherhood till date… Though I wanted to breastfeed my little one till he was a year old, this was something I did not expect.

My li’l one and I had this routine of breastfeeding right before his nap and sleep times. He would suck for a while and sleep in my lap and I would then slowly shift him onto the bed. But when I wanted to wean him off, I found it becoming a huge problem. He just wouldn’t sleep without it. He would stay awake for hours (even 2 a.m.) !!! And spend the whole time crying. He would be cranky the next day too. I found it hard trying to pacify him, get my regular household work done and even feed him. Yes!!! He would refuse to eat and sleep… Only cry and cry till one day he was down with fever. I did breastfeed him then as I was scared… I didn’t want his condition to deteriorate. His ped. also told me to continue my breastfeed and he would stop when he is comfortable. Not all children are alike. 

I continued it for another year then ( he was 2 yrs 3 months then). He started going to playschool. But he still wanted to suck for sometime before falling off to sleep. I breastfed him in trains, marriages, functions, friend’s places wherever he had to sleep… I had to do it and bear those weird looks and comments from ‘experienced’ mothers. I searched online for help but found some more people in a situation like mine but that did not comfort me.

THEN a miracle happened, my breast milk dried up and this was the time I felt THE RIGHT TIME when I could explain my li’l one that he has grown up and needs to sleep on his own. He was upset for few days but then he slowly understood and accepted the fact!! 

So that was it…. Struggled really long but then that day did come when my li’l one on his own accepted it without crying or throwing tantrums!!! I guess every child does take his/her time to feel secure and step into the next stage.

Patience and understanding is all we need…. I learnt that from this experience…. 

You all must have learnt it too!!!

Cheers!!!